Just a few more weeks of the summer hols, bittersweet days of needing a break from the kids but wanting to hold tight to every moment spent with them before we return to the routine of school and kindy.
Over the hols we’ve spent a lot of time at our local beaches, we’re superbly blessed in terms of choice, white(ish) sand, clear(on good days) water and gentle(if any)waves.
This year the kids both have water confidence and no longer require an adults hand to grip on to as they play in the shallows.
Last summer visits to the beach often ended in Freddie having a meltdown – too hot, too windy, too sandy… but this year he’s really pulled himself together and has become a very keen boogie boarder, as has Izzy.
Thinking ahead to those hot and humid February/March days I’ve been filling the kid’s heads with plans to make Beach Time part of our school/kindy day, every day that I can. For me that means pre-preparing dinner (big ask, but possible as I’ve not got many commitments this term) and bringing afternoon tea when I go to pick them up, we can go straight to the beach from school. I’ve talked about it almost every sunny day and Freddie has started to incorporate it on to his reality and THAT is a win! NB Freddie was diagnosed in December with Autism, High Functioning. He’s also Gifted. Getting this idea into Freddie’s mindset is essential to it being a success. And getting physical activity into both the kids daily routine is essential not only to their well being but to my mental wellbeing.
I’m excited about this year, Izzy will be starting school, beginning of second term. We’ve got a meeting coming up at school to discuss how they can make school a safe and nurturing environment for our daughter, their very first affirmed transgender child. We’ve got teacher interview coming up to meet Freddie’s new teacher (I know her as I’ve teacher aided in her class and am looking forward to seeing how Freddie might flourish under her care. I have to mention I’m REALLY sad to leave our beautiful teacher from last year behind, I may have to volunteer in her class this year to soak up some of the awesomeness!)
Next week while Harry is off we’ll get the documents witnessed and sent off to change Izzy’s name on her birth cert. Originally I wanted to get both name and gender changed but I’ve since learnt this involves Family Court and I believe is unprecedented in NZ to date. So instead we’ll change her name and then apply for a NZ passport which allows for affirmed gender, we have a letter from Izzy’s doc to support our application. Last week the hospital changed her name and gender marker and that’s now changed with our GP too. Izzy will be registered at school under her new name and gender. All of these things, and of course the fact she has socially transitioned, will support our day in court, when that day comes.
Disappointing news is that I don’t have a guaranteed job at school this term – really sad about that, so keep your fingers crossed something will turn up. I really want to be working at my kids school, not just because my kids are there but because I whole heartedly identify with and support the school’s ethos of inclusivity. I’m also a little attached to some of the kids!
Well, that’s enough for now – Harry and the kids are due back any minute and then it’s toast, “pudds” and bed. We’re in the final chapters of The Horse and His Boy, and although I’ve read it numerous times before I’m really looking forward reliving the end of the story.