Details, details

Every time I take Izzy to the after hours doctor (we’re here now) I have to write her birth name and a note saying “please use the name Izzy and female pronouns”.  My palms get damp and I feel sick.

It’s always ok, but each time I feel so nervous and I think how horrible it must be for older transgender people in these situations.

I haven’t figured out a way to get around the name used on her prescriptions, every time the pharmacist calls out her birth name.  So far Izzy’s never heard this, and by the time she’s old enough to collect her own prescriptions her name, and I hope, gender will be legally changed but you’d think the doctor could sort something out – all it would take is a note added to the prescription.



  1. You would think they would do something, but they don’t. It’s frustrating. Sometimes even the people you think really would take the time and effort to get it right, don’t. It’s a joy when folks do make the effort!


  2. In Australia you can change name and gender on the Medicare card without any other documentation. The birth certificate is more difficult, esp depending on what state you’re in, but it’s easy to fix up the doctor/pharmacist/hospital issues. It’s one form – took me half an hour. It might be worth checking out what’s possible where you are . . .


  3. I’ve gone through and read a bunch of your older posts and all I have to say is you are incredible. You sounds like an amazing mother with an amazing family. I find you and your family incredibly inspiring. Thank you for sharing your world with us and I can’t wait to read more.

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  4. Before our adoptions were finalized I had a typed sheet and just handed out copies left and right. I still hated when Anne nurse or pharmacist called me, “Mrs (insert bio-dad’s name here!)” I’m glad you support her identity.

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